Tips for visiting as a couple:

We congratulate you on your decision to visit an erotic club together. A visit to Insomnia does not mean cheating, the opposite is the case. Such a visit can refresh your sex life and become an erotic adventure that brings you even more together. You share an exciting experience and become even closer.

It is very important that you talk to each other beforehand, discuss your boundaries, taboos and also jealousy. If you decide to have sexual contact with others, be aware that you are acting together as a couple and that the other person(s) are your "living sex toys". It's not about romance and feelings - it's about horniness, sex and variety, whether it's a threesome, bi experiences or role-playing with appropriate equipment.

Don't try to persuade your partner to do something they don't actually agree to. This could not only ruin your visit to the swingers club, but could also have serious consequences for your relationship.

Choose your parties according to your preferences, personal boundaries and musical tastes: Hedonistic parties (Fri/Sat) are about partying, dancing, flirting, seeing & being seen and working up an appetite. On Saturdays with electronic dance music, on Fridays also varied with Gothic, EBM, Dark Wave, 80s, 90s, etc.
You don't have to be sexually active at these parties, you can just party, dance or watch, there are no obligations except for the erotic dress code. Most weekend parties have an area just for couples and their personal playmates.
Take advantage of the "dressing up" at home, turn up the music, get turned on while getting dressed together, enjoy slipping into a different role and leave your everyday life behind.

At the swinger parties during the week, we want sexually active participants. We have an active consensus, i.e. first ask, then touch. If you want to swing, you should approach others in a friendly and open manner without being pushy. A "no" is a "no" and will not be discussed!

Speciality Men's Surplus - Cuckold - Wifesharing Party: It makes little sense to come to a men's surplus party as a couple if you don't have the fantasy to have intercourse with several gentlemen.

Special Fetish / BDSM Events: These parties are designed as play parties and are suitable for couples who enjoy playing, not necessarily with others, but with themselves. It simply disturbs the erotic atmosphere when couples just look for hours and maybe even talk about irrelevant things. If you want to play S&M games, you have to find the right tone!

Keep enough distance from the scene, don't stand in the swinging range of the whip! Speak softly, approach with respect and in couples address the dominant part. If you don't understand something you see, keep your surprise to yourself at first. Feel free to ask the staff or, if appropriate, the actors about the situation.

Condoms are available everywhere or at the bar. Also rubber gloves and lubricant. There are bins under the black tables where used condoms, tissues etc. can and should be disposed of. There are towels, shower gel, disinfection and changing facilities.

Are you a couple who would like to visit a swingers' club but are not quite sure yet?
For this purpose we have created the "swinger sponsors".
You can visit the Insomnia together with an experienced swinger couple and will be gently explained the customs and traditions of the Insomnia. You will have a competent contact person at your side throughout the evening if you have any questions during the night.
If you are interested, just write an email to DiePaten@insomnia-berlin.de.

What happens at Insomnia stays there.

Hints for visiting as a single man:

At the hedonistic parties on Friday and Saturday we emphasise dancing, flirting, seeing & being seen. Only attend them if you really feel like dressing up sexy, showing off, dancing and flirting. At the bar, on the dance floor, by the pool - there are many opportunities to flirt and socialise. If you want to swing, you should approach others in a friendly and open manner without being pushy.

If you prefer to get straight to the point, then come to the swinger parties or fetish / BDSM events during the week. However, remember: paying admission is no guarantee of getting laid or playing along! You are buying participation in a sex/ fetish party, not a sexual service! If you want to fuck, you have to be friendly (and clean, fresh & fragrant)! A "no" is a "no"!

Special features of fetish / BDSM events: If you want to play SM games, you have to find the right tone! Keep enough distance to the scene when you are watching, don't stand in the swinging range of the whip! Speak softly, approach with respect and, in couples, address the dominant part. Unsolicited contact with the sub rarely leads to success. If you don't understand something you see, keep your surprise to yourself at first, ask the staff or, if appropriate, the actors about the situation.

If you join an erotic scene, keep a discreet distance at first. No loud conversations about trifles such as the last football match. First try to enjoy the scene and assess it. Did they notice you coming? Were you ignored or did they roll their eyes in annoyance? Were you sent a tentative smile or an inviting look? Rather ask: Can I watch/participate?

If it appeals to you, you can also put your hand on yourself - but without touching your partner's face! Some (not all!) couples like you to watch them, get excited about them and show it, some also want to see if you would be willing to be the third or fourth in the group and wave you over if your erection is convincing.

Be washed and scented! Wash your fingers in between, especially if you're fiddling with more than one! You can find disinfectants in the toilets.

Use condoms and rubber gloves if you want to finger someone. This and lube is available at the bar. There are bins under the black tables where used condoms, tissues etc. can and should be disposed of. There are towels, shower gel, disinfection and changing facilities.

What happens at Insomnia stays there.

Tips for visiting as a single woman:

Use our clean, safe sexual escapades infrastructure for your erotic adventures! You can date and have fun without giving a glimpse into your whole life right away.

Choose your party according to your preferences, personal boundaries and musical tastes: Hedonistic parties (Fri/Sat) are all about partying, dancing, flirting, seeing & being seen and working up an appetite. Saturdays with electronic dance music, on Fridays also varied with Gothic, EBM, Dark Wave, 80s, 90s etc. There are playrooms for couples only (Ebene) and open to all.

At the swinger parties we want sexually active players. Active consensus rules with us, i.e. first ask, then touch. If you want to swing, you should approach others in a friendly and open manner without being pushy. A "no" is a "no" and will not be discussed! If you want to have a look around first, dare to take your first cautious steps, we recommend Friday/Saturday with erotic dance - and theme parties.

Special feature Men's Surplus - Cuckold - Wifesharing Party: It makes little sense to come to a men's surplus party as a woman if you don't have the fantasy of having sex with several men.

Special Fetish / BDSM Events: If you want to play SM games, you have to find the right tone! These parties are designed as play parties and are suitable for ladies who like to play. Insomnia is a sex laboratory!

Condoms are available everywhere or at the bar. Rubber gloves and lubricant are also available. There are bins under the black tables where used condoms, tissues etc. can and should be disposed of. There are towels, shower gel, disinfection and changing facilities.

Are you a single woman who would like to visit a swingers' club, but don't quite dare to do it alone?
For this purpose we have created the "swinger sponsors".
You can visit Insomnia together with an experienced swinger couple and you will be gently explained the customs and traditions of Insomnia. You will have a competent contact person at your side throughout the evening if you have any questions during the night.
If you are interested, just write an email to DiePaten@insomnia-berlin.de.

What happens at Insomnia stays there.

Notes for the queer community

You are very welcome and we are very happy if you enrich our club!
The weekends are very varied and queer-friendly with the Hedonistic Party Programme. Particularly noteworthy would be the Kinktastisch and Hedomanie.

Pure swinger events are more suitable for bi - contacts.... our guests are very curious and open-minded.

Speciality Men's Surplus - Cuckold - Wifesharing- Party: Rather unsuitable for a visit.

Speciality Fetish / BDSM Events: There are many straight couples / men who can imagine scenarios with bisexuals, TV / TS, genderfluid etc.. They also like to watch if you just want to play with yourselves. With us, even very unusual scenarios can be acted out in a clean and safe environment.

Condoms are available everywhere or at the bar. Rubber gloves and lubricant are also available. There are waste bins under the black tables where used condoms, tissues etc. can and should be disposed of. There are towels, shower gel, disinfection and changing facilities.

What happens at Insomnia stays there.